From Loser to Winner: How to Improve Your Well-Being

If you are sure that the image of a loser is stuck with you once and for all, then you are mistaken. It's never too late to change your mindset and lifestyle - and here are some tips on how to do it.

Change your attitude towards your life

Instead of self-deprecating and getting stuck on things that you have not yet achieved, turn your attention to everything that you have already accomplished in your life.

It may seem that such thinking, on the contrary, will stall you - why strive for more if you feel good now? But self-deprecating takes a lot of energy. As soon as you stop scolding yourself for missing achievements, you will immediately free up a lot of energy that you can direct to self-development, to improvement of space around you. Released energy will trigger other changes in your life - instead of reveling in your fictional "worthlessness" for hours, you can take some courses, learn a new subject, or complete a project that you never had time and energy to finish before.

Learn how to see beauty in small things

When was the last time that you noticed how picturesque the clouds and trees outside the window are? How many days ago were you quietly watching the steam rising from a mug of hot tea? Do you feel joy when a houseplant starts a new green shoot?

The joy of everyday little things will help you gain energy for more important and great achievements. In addition, it fills life, makes it more meaningful and enjoyable - isn't this a part of success?

Define your measure of success

Each person defines success in his own way. It is important for someone to have influence on others - personal or political. Others consider themselves successful if they are free to create. For many people, the main criterion for success will be money (and there is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of - in the modern world, money can really be called the guarantee of a comfortable life).

What do you associate success with? Achievement of which goals would you describe as a success? Think about it and write it down; it is convenient to do this in thisfree Service. Review your definition periodically and check to see if it has changed. Rethinking values is one of the stages of the way, so it will be absolutely normal if, after a year of working on yourself, you find that your understanding of success has changed dramatically.

Establish a routine

Routine is not necessarily tiresome work. All daily matters, small tasks we call routine. Washing and brushing your teeth is a routine. Reading a book in the evening is also a routine. Each of us has a more or less constant daily routine and habitual simple actions. Some of them are necessary to maintain life and hygiene (to eat, to sleep, to wash), others can interfere with our goal or, on the contrary, bring it closer. For example, if one of the criteria for success for you is a healthy, athletic body, then daily jogging will be a healthy routine, and TV sessions with chips and beer will be harmful.

Determine all of your routines and put each into one of these three groups. Try to give up actions that harm your well-being. Instead, develop new habits that will bring your success closer.

Habits have one important property - they do not require much effort from us. If you have established a good habit, then every day you will benefit from it, spending a minimum of vital energy. If the habit is bad, then it will be very difficult for you to give it up - it is so easy, so habitual! Changing your list of habits is hard work. It is equally difficult to get rid of old habits and to start new ones. But this work pays off - in a couple of months, the new daily routine will become easy and enjoyable.

Consume consciously

Regardless of what your idea of success is, unconscious consumption will harm it. It's not just about food, but about shopping in general. Aggressive marketing is the enemy of consciousness, so learning to ignore it is important. Don't let advertisers decide which product you need more - focus on your own needs and desires. After a while, you will notice that you keep more in your wallet, and you get more pleasure from shopping.

The same applies to information. Take everything you read, hear and see critically. Don't take authoritative opinions on faith - make your own ones. Refuse information that is wasting your head - it can be not only useless, but also harmful. For example, frequent reading of bad news (which is not directly related to you and which you cannot influence) significantly reduces empathy, that is, the ability to sympathize and empathize.

Changing habits, breaking your lifestyle is undoubtedly a hard task. But it is impossible to achieve a positive change without hard work.

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